Anyway, this is all kind of random, but I wanted to share. I have been feeling pretty good for the last few weeks; maybe that work trip to New Orleans had something to do with it, followed by the long weekend. But just thinking about it now, I know that as soon as my cycle begins again, I’m going to get emotional and terribly distracted again. Oh, and I have to figure out if I want to go see some college friends the weekend after next. Both of whom have baby girls who will be with them. And the unmarried, childless friend who invited us all to get together in the first place has had to back out, so husband and I will be conspicuously childless. I know that it’s likely to get me all upset, but these are also people I haven’t seen in years and may not get the chance to see again for several more. ::Groan:: I don’t know what to do. Husband says that he’s letting me decide if we go or not. I kind of wish he’d just said “no” straight out.
Gosh, husbands letting wives make decisions? How totally inconsiderate of him.
In all seriousness, what do you think? Is it worth the heartache to go? I don’t want IF to make this decision for me, but I also know myself well enough to know that I’m likely to be miserable all weekend and for weeks afterward. How do you handle situations like this, gentle reader?
-January
-January
Do they have to bring their babies with them? Can't it just be a girlfriends' meetup without babies? I'm with you. If there are babies, then I wouldn't want to go either.
ReplyDeletetotally know how you feel about AF coming on and getting all emotional and unproductive. Praying for you that maybe what feels like AF coming is actually pregnancy symptoms and if they are not, praying that this time AF does not get you down.
I'm impressed with all you do prior to AF. That's amazing!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby wouldn't make that kind of decision either. His reasoning is that I would be "mad" at him either way. Perhaps he's had experience with that. :-)
I'd agree with IMHPFP ... would you have alone "girl time" w/o the babies? Are the babies really young? That's what always gets me ... the really young babies. If you were REALLY good college friends (like BFF's and still keep in touch often), it would probably be good to go, but if you're more acquaintances, I don't think you're obligated to go. I'd just plan for a date in the future and say something came up.
I don't know if this helps at all, but its ALWAYS OK to say no. I totally understand self-preservation.
I've decided not to go. I agree, Amanda, if we'd been really really close, I'd have probably made the effort, but they were not my closest friends, so I think sitting this one out is the smart way to go. Hopefully I'll get to see them again soon and feel strong enough to play with some babies.
ReplyDelete-Jan